The sweet spot is found in love. Love of others, love of self, love of daily life, whatever it is, however mundane. Our happiness is affected by others, of course, but the bottom line is that "affect" comes through "effect", meaning how we act, and how we perceive the actions of others, how we intercept them, and what we do with them. We can find fault with anyone, can’t we? Including ourselves. How about considering a 180 in any sticky negative situation. Action = action instead of reaction. To reach the epitomy of an automatic 180 degree response to offensive, negative or bad behaviors we will need to train ourselves. We need to change, because it doesn’t come naturally. We need to act, not react.
Here’s a good exercise to retrain the brain. Whenever you cross paths with someone that has any annoying habits, visualize actually flipping a switch in your mind to look for the good in them. Whenver you do something yourself where you want to kick yourself, or agonize over a bad decision,flip the switch! Pat yourself on the back for being human, and note the lesson for future use. I promise you when you learn to flip the switch this way, it will work, AND feel good. Remember the addage from our youth, practice makes perfect. Not perfect people but perfect responses that will help you find "the sweet spot". Remember to look within first. Love starts with loving ourselves. That makes it much easier to love others.
